Thursday, July 27, 2006

Of Course

I went out last night just to have some fun and get away from my family. I was sitting at a gay bar when a guy comes up to me, sits down, and starts to talk to me. Hes really cute, got a great smile, and he can hold a conversation, which is really good. And so we talk and drink for a couple of hours, I am careful to make sure that I do not drink too much and end up sounding like an idiot, as I so often do when I am completely drunk.

He seems like a good guy, is a little on the old side for me (34) and lives alone, works as a manager of a clothing store, seems to be a fairly happy guy who really knows what he wants in life. That made him a great person to talk to, and I did find myself talking to him about all of my insecurities and fears. He did a great job of reassuring me.

It is maybe about midnight or one in the morning when the guy gets up and says that he has work tomorrow and so he has to get home. And he invites me to come with him. I tell him that I really am not looking for a one-night stand, and thanks, but I am not interested. That was really hard for me to say, mind you, because I have been used to a lot of sex and have not been getting that lately.

He said that that was fine, he was not really looking for a one-night stand either. And he asked me out to dinner tonight. I was too drunk to think about it and say no, so of course I said yes. He phoned me about an hour ago and we finalized where we are going and when, etc.

But I am leaving on Sunday, for Rimini, which is quite a long way from Napoli, several hours by car. This man told me that he was not looking for a one-night stand, and he does not know I am going away in three days. But I really like him and he really seems to be a calm and steady guy which frankly is what I need because I know that I am all over the place.

I am not going to tell him tonight, I just want to have a nice meal. I do not intend to have sex with him and I think that he will be okay with that.

Why does this seemingly perfect guy land in my life just as I am about to leave the city? I have been here for a month...where has he been all this time???


At 3:47 PM, Blogger Brad said...

I'm certainly not opposed to one night stands.

At 4:49 PM, Blogger ..:: YNAGER ' 65 ::.. said...

This how the Gods of Fate love to screw with our heads, lol. You never know, if nothing else, you may begin a friendship that will be good for you when you go visit your Father. Maybe he can even be a friend with "special" benefits, heeheehee. I agree with Brad, not all one nite stands are that bad ; )

This is also, what makes the game all the more exciting, if you find a good one, that only means tat there are more out there = )

At 5:22 PM, Blogger Earl said...

Then make it a three-night-stand.

At 8:28 PM, Blogger Gumby said...

Enjoy the time you have with him. He obviously came into your life now for a reason. It may not be for love or sex. But you also never know when your paths may cross again. I really respect your willpower and morals in refusing to have a one-night stand with him.

I personally would have been all over him like white on rice. :-)

At 9:30 PM, Blogger alessandro said...

well, it was not long before I changed my mind.


At 6:53 AM, Blogger Gray said...

I *hope* you do *not* look at him as a potential friend "with *special* benefits" -- you're not a whore, are you?

Take his new friendship for what it appears to be: a chance meeting with a potential friend who might be there when you go to visit your father.

At 6:06 PM, Blogger john said...

Sometimes perfection comes when we are least looking for it.


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